Reflections

I’ve been taking the time to honor all the things that have happen in my life.  All the wonderful changes that I’ve been blessed with.

As winter is almost here and my birthday is around the corner  I am taking the time to really reminisce on all that has happen.  Taking the time to notice and reflect on all the things that make up who I am.  Through Real Beauty: Uncovered I have listened to women who have been gracious enough to allow me to see a glimpse of their lives. And I have learned this:

Honoring the girl who has been angry and hurt. Honor the girl who had to leave the only place that she knew to embark on a new adventure. Honor the girl who has tried to be perfect, only to realize that she was perfect all along. Honor the girl who tried her best!  Honor your lessons and the mistakes as they are the milestones to the woman today.  Honor the girl who has felt broken and didn’t ask for help. Know that we are all together standing there holding you close.

Be kind to yourself and others, be patient for those who are still learning. Live life to it’s fullest. Don’t ever stop to apologize for who you are but keep learning!  Know that your flaws are perfect too and that you are an artist to the canvas that never stops painting.

Listen! Not only to your voice but to someone else’s.

Most importantly LOVE.  Love without expectation.  Love as you want to be loved.  Listen as you want to be listened. Respect as you wanted to be respected.

The most important lessons in life are learned through mistakes.  Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing; just learn and try not to repeat.  Life is as hard as you allow it to be.

And remember to Just Be You!

 

 

 

Real Beauty: Uncovered Showcased at the President’s Interfaith and Community Service

Really excited to announce that Real Beauty: Uncovered was showcased at the President’s Interfaith and Community Service last week!  We are making a difference one step at a time! Take a peek how we were showcased.

Refections of the Summer Program

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We had a blast with our students this summer!  Learning about each other and growing into a more authentic self for the upcoming Freshman year in High School.

Our students where all 8th graders making that transition into High School, which I think we all remember that summer when everything was a clean slate.  I remember looking forward to meeting new people but scared that I wasn’t going to fit in,

 

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My Best Friend and I in “that” summer between 8th and High School. 

This year we were honored to hear all about the stories and the fears of the new phase of their lives.  Knowing that we all have gone through the same thing, which I think is the key.  The knowledge that we all go through the same in some way shape or form makes transitions a bit easier.

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I know that with each week our students became stronger!

 

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I look forward to hearing from all of the students as they make their way through freshman year!

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Just Be You!

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Feeling the Love…

I always feel so honored to have one of my RBU girls give the project some love! 

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Introducing Elena B

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Growing up in a family with eight siblings, I was the middle child. To say the least, things was not simple for me. The more I look at the world around me, the more I found flaws in my self. For instance, I was bigger than girls my age, and my complexion was not the way I wanted it to be. The other girls seem to be thinner and prettier with smooth light brown skin and their hair always look nicer than mine. However, in my mind this is what beauty was to me. On the other hand, I wanted to be black as tar so no one could see me, my self-esteem at that time was very low.

Unfortunately, my self image of life carries me well into my early twenty, late thirty. I did not like the way I look. I became an alcoholic, this was my way of dealing with my self image. Drinking made me feel pretty and sexy I had a false confidence. However, one day I said “enough is enough” and I had to love me for me no matter what I look like. Real beauty begins when one excepts them self for who they are and how god made them. Also, not allowing the world to dictate on how one should look.

Beauty to me is understanding one’s self and being able to help another person who is feeling down. Also giving of one’s time and energy, bringing out the best in someone, that they may feel better about themselves. Real beauty is skin deep, no matter how you look on the outside, what’s on the inside will come out rather it is good or bad. Therefore, real beauty is being true to thy own self, and one will always be the most beautiful person in the world.

My life Motto is “To Thy Own Self Be True”

The ‘F’ Word..

Feminism

One of the few words that brings up a whole bunch of emotions for both sexes.

There are a lot of myths out there about Feminism

There area lot of myths about what it means to be a feminist – that feminist hate men, eschew “girly” things like dresses and heels, look down on stay-at-home moms, and want to take all the world’s power out of men’s hands.

And none of them are true – at least not universally.

Sure, there are outliers that fit the stereotype of every group. Some people who call themselves feminists certainly do hate men. And yes, some feminists do not want to wear four-inch heels that make their toes bleed. But man-hating, power-hungry, totalitarian nastiness is not what feminism is about.

Personally, I like Sam Killerman’s definition: “to create a society in which individuals’ genders don’t restrict them from an equitable shot at success and happiness.”

My journey is to at least help tear down the walls that have haunted women since comparison started.  Comparison in which we have done to ourselves and to each other.

Feminism is part of the journey to equality, the other is to stop tearing ourselves down. Stop comparing yourself to “the other girl.”  Know that you are really enough and that you are beautiful just the way you are.  I have always seen people with a light that shines through at different times in our lives.  Sometimes we are in the lime light and other times we are standing by watching the others shine.

In the end we all have our turn.